Lack of Conscience?

Some of us may know people who seem to walk (okay, stomp) through life caring very little for others. These people like playing victim and blame everyone else for what's wrong in their life. These people live with NO CONSCIENCE. How, I ask myself, can someone have absolutely no conscience? How can they use and abuse others, with no regard or remorse?

They are more than likely narcissists. I was married to one, and let me tell you, narcissists don't change. It's classified as a personality disorder and those can only be improved with intense therapy. They don't magically go away. Here's the interesting part: he remarried another narcissist. So here you have 2 "takers" hitched together. That's hysterical, isn't it? Two people who are selfish, self-absorbed and completely entitled to whatever they want, living under the same roof. They deserve each other, as far as I'm concerned.

What makes it heart-breaking, however, is that together they torture my children. Obviously I'm not talking about chains and whips, here. I'm talking about verbal, emotional and mental abuse. One of my children is now blind due to my ex's self-absorption, and it's something I will NEVER, NEVER forgive him for. He also uses my children to continue to torture, control and bully me. As if everything else wasn't enough, he is also a serial bully. This isn't surprising, since certain emotional and personality disorders seem to cluster together.

Now they say that "success is the best revenge," and I know from personal experience that indeed, it is. Several years ago I remarried a wonderful man who adores me and would walk through fire for me. My ex and I had a quasi-working relationship until I remarried. Then the you-know-what hit the giant fan. And you know what really burns his toast? That every day I get stronger and more resistant to his methods of coercion. Ha, for years he kept my wings clipped and my mind trapped. Now, my wings are healing and unfurling. Boy, it feels good...

There are surely others out there that have gone or are going through something similar. For them, I suggest visiting the links provided in this blog.